Children: Oscar Stanley, 10 months, Georgina Rose 3, years
Location: West Didsbury
Previous Blog Entry: https://the-mothers.co.uk/2016/11/10/helen-and-georgina/
Motherhood since the last post: Already having one baby, Georgina (who would tell me off for even suggesting she is a baby) I assumed our next baby would be a replica of Georgina. However, I soon realised they are very different (and I’m reminded everyday that they have their very own unique minds!). Therefore, what worked first time round doesn’t work second time round. Much to my shock, my backup of walking the streets of Didsbury to get my baby to sleep were crushed; Oscar doesn’t like to sleep in his pram unless he is utterly exhausted.
I was extremely excited about becoming a mummy to another mini person. I was apprehensive about how I would manage to divide my attention between two children and I was also worried how Georgina would take to sharing me. Luckily, she was (and still is) totally besotted with Oscar and if I pick her up from nursery without him her first question is, ‘Mummy, where is Oscar?’.
My intention second time around was to take it easy and not pressurise myself into going to loads of baby classes. Don’t get me wrong, I liked them but I found I was always rushing from one activity to the next. This time we would do things at our own pace.
Reality of motherhood: I love it. It’s by far the hardest job I will ever have but the ‘employee benefits’ that my two bosses give are the best! These usually come in the form of smiles, giggles, kisses, hugs, fun and praised by being told that they love me (Georgina that is, whilst Oscar is, of course, in my eyes a genius he is also 10 months old so even I will admit he can’t talk!).
I had also forgotten how often babies need feeding and how many times they wake up during the night. The dreaded cluster feeding came with bells and whistles on. I thought ‘I’ve done it once, I can do it again’ but I had forgotten to factor in the early wake up call from a toddler and the amount of energy a toddler has. To say I’m exhausted 24/7 is an understatement. I’ve changed my under eye concealer to an industrial one!
Taking your child home: After a very quick labour (around 90 minutes!) our second water baby arrived. I was still a little shocked on the journey home. I literally couldn’t stop looking at him, he was perfect. I couldn’t wait to get home and watch Georgina with him.
Hardest parts of being a mother: You’re on duty 24/7 365 days a year for two tiny humans. Oscar is not fussed about sleeping so, at the moment, we are generally up 5 to 7 times a night. I really must stop being so much fun to hang out with….!
Best parts of being a mother: Just being with them both. Their smiles light up any room. I love watching them play together and the bond between them.
Has becoming a mother changed you? Definitely. They are my world. Every decision that we make is for them.
Hopes for your family: For many adventures big and small as a family of four.
Best advice: Don’t heat their food, if they get use to eating it at room temperature it makes life easier when you’re out and about.
Worst advice: Have a lavender bath after labour. I had a massive reaction to lavender (despite never reacting to it before).
Any more advice for mothers and expectant mothers: Have fun, don’t worry if your house isn’t tidy or your hair isn’t washed everyday just enjoy your tiny bundle.